The Danger of Losing Our Connection

Yesterday, (2.1.11), I read a disturbing article in the New York Daily News about seven teenage bullies attacking a 13 year old boy in Pennsylvania.  The included video brought home the sheer brutality of the attack.

See the original article here.

As I watched the video, I couldn’t help but wonder what would make kids be so cruel to one another.  I mean, teasing another kid is one thing.  We’ve ALL done that.  But hanging another kid from a tree?  And hanging him from his jacket from a fence?  And dragging him through the snow, punching and kicking him along the way?

Then it struck me.  That level of cruelty can only exist when we’ve completely forgotten our connections to one another.  That what we do has an impact not only on the person we’re doing it to, but on a host of others connected by a web of relationships we can’t even begin to comprehend.  Did those kids think about the impact they were having on this boy?  His future interactions with others?  (It’s amazing, isn’t it, how negative behaviors continue to manifest in future relationships.  Raise your hand if you know what I’m talking about).  Did they think about his mother, or the rest of his family, and how this impacts them?  As a father, I can’t imagine what I would have done had I seen a gang of kids doing that to one of my daughters.  But I can tell you here and now that it would have gotten UGLY.  (You just don’t attack a parent’s children like THAT and expect to get away with it).

That thought brings me back to parents.  What are the parents of these kids teaching them?  Perhaps they’re doing all they can to teach them the right things about love, honor and respect for one another.  But as parents, do they not know that the lessons aren’t taking hold?  Or, worse yet, are they teaching them this kind of hatred?

I wrote this to remind everyone that not knowing our connections to and responsibilities for one another is inherently DANGEROUS.  It brings about our most base nature, and leads us away from the American promise of life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.  Parents stand up!!  We’ve got to do better than this.

Sound off!

Broadcast your inner Champion!


2 Responses to "The Danger of Losing Our Connection"

  • Vernon Davis Jr. says:

    I saw this article too. Everything you said is correct. Another issue came out of this article. Apparently, no one called 911 to aid this young boy. People saw this brutul attack and kept going. It took one woman to get out her car to stop the boys. How ironic is it that the same people who kept going are the same people that complain about the police? The police chief said as much at his press conference. Yes we have lost our connections as human beings. Now I wonder if the little boy’s race played a part in no one helping him. A group of white boys beating up a little black boy. Was this the reason no one helped him?? Even the school told his mother not to return her child to the school. Did the school not want to deal with the racial undertones of this situation? All of this is more of a sign of the growing outwardly-shown racism in this country. I wonder now how this incident will affect this little boy when becomes an adult.

  • Dee Berlack says:

    As a mother of a 9 year old and a five year old, I am mortified by such brutality. First, I would like to send prayers to the victims’ family. Secondly, I’d like to address this heinous act. To display hate, you must first learn to hate. What are parents teaching their children? More importantly, what aren’t they teaching their children?

    Children fight. They tease, and make fun of each other. That’s normal! What was done to this young boy was an act of hate…a hate crime. Whether or not it was racially motivated, has yet to be mentioned. But, what do you think???? I don’t believe children that age wonder about connections to other human beings, but they are VERY aware of right and wrong.

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